parks-and-rex:

gayer-than-you:

madammuffins:

caffeinewitchcraft:

Relationships get so bananas when you start deciphering the other person’s love language.

Like I thought I was just acquaintances with this person because they never told me details about themselves and we just talked movies and writing . But then they made time to have coffee with me and they showed up out of breath because they ran. Like. RAN to be on time for coffee with me?

And I was like “i don’t mind waiting” cause I never want to run

But they said they wanted every minute they could get because I’m so busy usually

Which is when it clicked that I didn’t get how much they considered me a friend because I just straight away didn’t see MY signs of affection in them and went “cool! Casual buds it is.” But now that I’m seeing their signs of affection, I feel a little silly for dismissing them like that even though I felt like we could be best bros.

Anyway, some people show affection through time or intensity or commitment and not vocally. I really have to remember that!

Fyi- just in case you didn’t know.

TOUCH got a bro that likes to give high fives? Back slaps? Are they a hugger? Do they not blink an eye at cuddles?

QUALITY TIME this bro will (as op stated) sprint to spend every minute possible with you. Every second that you guys are together is a declaration of affection.

WORDS does your bro tell you how amazing and great and fantastic and wonderful you are all the time? Guess what…?

GIFTS do they buy you coffee? Snacks, energy drinks, spot you at the restaurant? Did that one key chain removed you of them? Ding ding!

ACTS are they always doing things for you? Ie: Nah bro, I got this, I can do that, need me to get anything for you, I can help with…?

PRO TIP - The way people show love is often how they receive love as well.

I reblogged this recently but it got better and ive been thinking and learning a lot abt love languages so

dies-first:

full-moon-phoenix:

akira-kurusu-loves-you:

If your child’s grades are dropping

DO NOT:

• Yell at them for three hours
• Take away their devices and look through them
• Make them sit in their rooms in silent and do their homework alone
• Side with the teacher and not get your child’s side of the story
• Tell them that their grades are the most important thing they should worry about

INSTEAD:

• Ask if they’re having trouble with other students or teachers
• Sit down with them and help them with what they don’t understand
• Speak calmly instead of yelling
• Don’t invade their privacy by looking through their devices
• Don’t take away their hobbies as punishment
• Never make them feel unsafe or unable to trust you

This has been a message from a struggling high school junior that wishes their own parents actually did this stuff.

Bonus: Don’t look through their freaking backpacks. Chances are they know damn well they have loads of unfinished papers and the stress of knowing is so overwhelming they don’t even wanna look at it.

I had a teacher in junior year in hs that assigned us to do 100 hours of community service each (idk why, had nothing to do with physics), then didn’t tell us that he was putting that into the grades immediately, so by week 3 everyone was failing bc no one started it yet. My parents didn’t listen to my side at all while explaining it, and nearly beat the living snot out of me. So yeah plz boost this post